Stage one – Guilt. Shame. Agony. Suffering. Grief-stricken. Confused. Heart broken. Loss of identity. Loss of will. No passion left. Indifferent. Feels like the death of one’s spirit. Severely burnt out. No sense of direction. Isolating oneself. Manic depression. Unable to move on. Disempowerment. Despair. Suicidal thoughts. Vulnerability. Hysterical. Unable to cope. Seeing no way forward from debilitating state. Feeling like a stranger to oneself. Severe anxiety. Fear of the world. Feeling unsafe like one’s support system has crumbled. Self worth obliterated. Life purpose demolished. Repulsed and disgusted by self. No hope left. No belief system anymore. Mind, heart soul and spirit are separated-needing to rejoin in order to connect to energy source and regain faith and strength. Unable to cope with smallest of tasks. Communication with people may be impossible. Regular anxiety attacks. Does not believe life will ever change.
Stage two – Fighting. Angered at self. not accepting of situation. Rigid in thought. Resisting change. Guilt. Shame. Refusing to let go. Wanting to speed up the recovery process. In-between worlds. Separated by the demands of the mind and the desires of the heart. Feeling cut off from most life. Still suffering from dense low energy. Stuck in past and still deeply fearful of the future. On going conflict with self. Can not make big or small decisions. Struggling to take on life. Unable to feel any joy. Can not live in the present moment. Experiencing fleeting moments of clarity or desire but losing touch with that essence frequently and falling back into repetitive pattern of guilt and shame alongside on going fatigue. Still struggling with severe conflict. Deep confusion. Disheartened. Desperately trying to find hope.
Stage three – Trying to replace the loss, rather than allowing time to heal and recentre. Finding distraction after distraction to pacify and sustain the needs of the ego. Overly exerting oneself with various tasks. Emotionally exhausting oneself over-thinking till the point of being fatigued. Beginning to glimpse new and fulfilling vision. But still unable to mould vision into existence with a cluttered and overwhelmed mind. Needing to develop stability, peace, certainty and self-love. Must develop healthier relationship with self, and become more accepting of current situation. Must develop greater clarity and calm to hear the needs of the soul, and give the body and mind time to rest. Need to slow down and incorporate daily rituals such as mindfulness and meditation into routine to cleanse away fear. Must be less concerned and active towards one’s future until strength of soul and heart has returned.
Stage four – Slowly beginning to adapt. Becoming more peaceful. Greater acceptance towards the situation. Prioritising over happiness and the needs of the soul. Not necessarily putting ambition and goals on hold, but being more gentle in the manner they are approached oppose to ruthless and unmerciful in the way one goes about ones day to day routine. This is the most vital step – Transcending. Becoming so deeply in tune with the soul’s needs. Far less concerned with gratification or the appearance of one’s life. Letting old opinions of self gently fall away. Focusing only what is. Letting everything else be. Allowing oneself to be more fluid. Not necessarily feeling a sense of wholeness, still drifting between feeling with intensity and lacking a higher connection with oneself. But beginning to develop strength of mind and heart a little. Now equip with a great deal of wisdom, insight and patience. More loving towards self. Less demanding in the way one performs. Stepping outside of the mindset that one must be forceful and reckless in order to achieve. New reality is beginning to form.
Stage five – Feeling a sense of renewal. The motivation to move forward returning. Desire to experience life all over again. Determination to do things differently. Leaving state of isolation and beginning to crave new connections with others. Openness to explore the new. Curiosity and zest to live fully each day. Maybe wanting to make radical change. Better at controlling negative thought patterns. Able to redirect negative energy into something positive. Beginning to do things that were put off in the past. Embracing life more fully. Not feeling the wholeness one did before one’s loss, but stronger and far more free in spirit, sharper and more resilient mentally, and more compassionate and understanding in the heart. One’s inner world may have expanded greatly, allowing one to see endless possibilities ahead. May begin to discover new talents and skills. Things that use to irritate are no longer a concern. Only concerned with living a life that is full of purpose, truth and love.
About the author
Jwaydan Moyine is a classically trained Film Composer, Pianist, Cellist, Singer/Songwriter, and a Writer and Entrepreneur. She founded Earth Children to bring awareness to matters regarding the Environment, Animal welfare, Sustainable & Conscious living, Wellness & Humanitarian issues. She is heavily involved with activism for animal welfare in the UK and Egypt and child welfare in Syria, Thailand and Romania. She resides in Berkshire Running an organic food farm, an organic skincare company, and an online platform called Vegans & Elephants, bringing awareness to matters regarding the Planet, Plant based nutrition, Cruelty free living & the necessity of adapting to Veganism for the sake of Sustainability, Animal welfare and our Health. She has several qualifications in nutritional therapy, culinary medicine & holistic healing. You can find out more on what she is doing over at the Earth Children Facebook Page!
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